I’m trying to get back into psychology books after my excessively long venture with the American Presidents. This blog aims to document my journey of reading Philosophy, History, Psychology, and the Classics. This week I am posting about an excellent book – which in a way covers all those categories. The book is 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos by Jordan Peterson. Peterson is a Canadian clinical psychologist and professor of psychology at the University of Toronto. I thoroughly enjoyed this book because it is written in a balanced manner – both conservatives and liberals find it hard to argue against these tips. Peterson writes almost like a philosopher and these 12 rules are backed up with plenty of metaphysical pondering – a big reason you should read it for yourself. Below are the 12 rules to life.
1. Stand up straight with your shoulders straight
Try to carry yourself in a confident manner that doesn’t allow people to take advantage of you. Life is hard as it is – feeling mentally and physically slouched makes things worse – so fake it until you make it.
2. Treat yourself like someone you are responsible for helping
Why do we take care of our loved ones but fail to take care of ourselves? Self care is not selfish.
3. Befriend people who want the best for you
Iron sharpens iron. We need people in our lives that make us better. Stray from being a hero and don’t try to fix everyone – dysfunction many times wins over in a relationship.
4. Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not the useless person you are today
Don’t compare yourself to others because there will always be someone better. Instead compare your current self to your former self. Are you improving or stagnant?
5. Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them
Children need discipline and are born with inherent aggression. Adults need to guide children and teach them how to function in society. Don’t let your kids control you because you lack discipline – they will grow up to be terrible adults.
6. Set your house in order before you criticise the world
Before questioning the problems of the world get your own problems in order. We aren’t perfect so stop expecting life to always go your way.
7. Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient
Life is all about delayed gratification. The things that take the most sacrifice are the most meaningful.
8. Tell the truth. Or at least don’t lie
Lies lead to problems in the psyche and the soul. Don’t lie because it just causes more issues in the future. Similar to the idea of rule number 7.
9. Assume the person you are listening to knows something you don’t
Seek first to understand and remember the wisdom of Socrates – “True knowledge exists in knowing that you know nothing.”
10. Be precise in your speech
Don’t beat around the bush. Don’t be vague when a problem arises. Confront issues head on and be truthful to yourself.
11. Do not bother children while they are skateboarding
Let men be men and girls be girls. There are biological differences between the sexes which should be fostered and not suppressed. Overprotecting children is not a form of love.
12. Pet a cat when you encounter one in the street
Life is tough, and we can’t explain away our suffering. If you see a cat in the street pet it and – experience for a second – the mystery of life.
Which is your favorite rule? I particularly like rule number 6. If we practiced just half of these rules daily, I’m sure we would be happier and healthier.